When life brings you to this moment, you don't have to face it alone
About Us
VITA Life and Legacy
You deserve to feel calm, clear, and supported through some of life's most significant moments.
VITA Life and Legacy is here to help.
Whether you are planning ahead, supporting someone at the end of their life, or navigating loss, this is a place where you will find compassionate guidance and a steady hand to help you through.
Kerry Tully is an experienced Funeral Celebrant, End-of-Life Doula, and Author with over 18 years in the field. She works with individuals and families across three areas of support, each one designed to bring clarity and calm when it is needed most.
For those who want to plan ahead, Kerry helps you document your wishes, organise your affairs, and put everything in place so the people you love are not left guessing.
When someone is approaching the end of their life, Kerry provides compassionate, practical guidance every step of the way, from emotional support through to bedside vigil care, so no one has to face that season alone.
And when the time comes to farewell someone you love, Kerry creates meaningful, personalised ceremonies that truly honour who they were. From traditional funerals and memorial services through to ashes scattering and pet memorials, every service is crafted with care, dignity, and heart.
Wherever you are in this journey, VITA Life and Legacy walks alongside you.
How can we help you?
Funerals &
Memorials
Planning a farewell for someone you love is one of life's hardest moments. I'm here to guide you through it with care, creating a meaningful ceremony that truly reflects the life and legacy of your loved one.
End-of-Life
Doula
You don't have to do this alone. As an end-of-life doula, I provide practical, emotional and spiritual support for individuals and families, offering a steady, caring presence when it matters most.
The Complete
End-of-Life Planner
Planning ahead isn't about death - it's about love, legacy and peace of mind. Explore The Complete End-of-Life Planner and other resources to start your journey toward feeling organised, prepared and truly ready.
Resources and Helpful Connections
Explore a range of organisations, support services, and practical resources to help you navigate ageing, illness, end-of-life planning, grief, and loss with confidence.
The Complete
End-of-Life Planner
Most Australians leave their family with no plan. This book changes that. Record your funeral wishes, life story, digital passwords, important documents, and heartfelt letters to loved ones - everything your family needs, all in one place.
Gives your family clarity during an emotional time
Keeps important personal, legal, and practical information in one place.
Allows your wishes to be known and respected
Helps reduce stress and uncertainty for loved ones
Provides peace of mind for you and the people you love
Blogs & Stories
How do I talk to my family about my end-of-life plans?
How do I talk to my family about my end-of-life plans?
Talking About Death: How to Discuss End-of-Life Plans with Family
TL;DR: Start with honesty, pick a calm moment, and focus on easing future stress for your loved ones. Use tools like the End-of-Life Planner to guide the conversation. Talking about death isn’t morbid - it’s thoughtful.
Talking about death isn’t easy. But it’s one of the most loving things you can do for the people you care about.
Whether you’re in Brisbane or anywhere in the world, having an honest conversation about your end-of-life wishes can bring clarity, comfort, and peace of mind - for you and your family.
Here are some gentle, practical tips to help you start the conversation.
How to Talk to Your Family About End-of-Life Planning
Talking about death isn’t easy. But it’s one of the most loving things you can do for the people you care about, at any stage or age of life.
Having an honest conversation about your end-of-life wishes can bring clarity, comfort, and peace of mind for you andyour family.
Here are some gentle, practical tips to help you start the conversation.
1. Choose the right moment
This doesn’t have to be a big dramatic sit-down. It can be a quiet moment over a cup of tea, a walk in the park, or after attending a funeral that made you reflect. Pick a time when things feel calm, and you won’t be rushed. You may have to do this more than once, as there can definitely be resistance to these types of conversations amongst family members.
2. Be honest about why you’re bringing it up
You might say:
“I’ve been thinking about making things easier for you down the track.”
“I want to make sure my wishes are clear, so you’re not left guessing.”
“This isn’t urgent, but it’s important to me.”
Let them know it’s coming from care, not fear.
3. Focus on easing their future stress
One of the kindest things you can do is make decisions now so your loved ones aren’t left wondering what you would have wanted.
Talking about music, flowers, even words that feel likeyoucan be a comforting and connecting process.
4. Expect emotions, but don’t avoid the topic
Some people may find it confronting, and that’s okay. Let the conversation flow naturally. You don’t have to cover everything in one go. Just opening the door can be enough.
5. Use a tool to guide the conversation
If you’re not sure where to start, or want something to make it feel more structured, my Complete End-of-Life Planner can help. It gives you prompts and space to think through what matters most, in your own time.
Remember:You’re not being morbid. You’re being thoughtful.
Preparing for death doesn’t bring it any closer. But it does make it easier for the people you love.
If you’re ready to start, my Complete End-of-Life Planner is a gentle, practical way to get your wishes down on paper.
FAQs: Common Questions About Talking to Your Family About End-of-Life Plans
Why should I talk to my family about end-of-life plans?
Because it helps remove uncertainty during an emotional time. When your wishes are clear, your loved ones can focus on honouring them instead of making difficult decisions on your behalf.
When is the right time to have this conversation?
Any time you feel ready. You don’t need to be sick or elderly to plan ahead. Starting early makes it less stressful and more natural.
What if my family avoids the topic?
That’s normal. You can gently let them know it’s important to you and that it doesn’t have to be a heavy conversation. Just a step towards clarity.
What should I include in my end-of-life plan?
Details like funeral preferences, music, flowers, readings, people to notify, and how you want to be remembered. Your personal touches matter.
How can the End-of-Life Planner help?
It gives you prompts, space to write, and a clear format to capture your wishes. It turns a hard topic into something practical and manageable.
Vita Life and Legacy is based in Brisbane, Australia, and offers a softcover A4;The Complete End-of-Life Plannerfor people anywhere in the world who want to plan ahead with care.
Our Customers Say About Us
In our time of sadness and sorrow, Kerry was wonderful. From the moment we met her she was compassionate and understanding. She advised and made recommendations that were suitable to our needs and requirements. It was so comforting to have her guide us both in our time of sadness. Kerry’s very down-to-earth approach, put my wife and I at ease, as we both felt more than comfortable with Kerry’s way of explaining things and guiding us. Dave
Kerry, I wanted to thank you for the service on Friday. It was absolutely beautiful. Perfect in every way. Your attention to detail made the day so special and something I will never forget. Thank you for going over and above your role and being so accommodating when changes were through at you. You are an amazing person and we are truly grateful. Michelle
Kerry was a huge help in organising the funeral. She kept a level head when we were consumed with grief.
Kerry delivered a very personal touch, and it was very evident that she takes great joy in being able to do the very vest in presenting a celebration of your loved one’s life.
She organized so much for us, from putting together the order of service and liaising with the Funeral Directors, to making sure everything ran smoothly on the day.
Kerry also made sure that people who worked with and had an association with Dad know of his passing. Such a caring and genuine lady.
Karen
Kerry really excelled herself in assisting with the entire ceremony, not only presenting on the day but in preparation.
From contacting and notifying key invites from various organisations. Providing items for display, organising a bagpiper to play at the service, preparing order the of service and providing the family with a compilation of Dads life in a beautifully presented memorial booklet including the Eulogy and service outline.
Kerry managed to fill so many voids in the preparation and handling making everything less stressful for the family and bringing the whole day together perfectly.
Lindsay
Meet Kerry Tully
Kerry is the Founder of VITA Life and Legacy, Funeral Celebrant, End-of-Life Doula, End-of-Life Specialist, and author of The Complete End-of-Life Planner.
This work is not just my profession. It is deeply personal.
I have experienced loss in some of its most tender forms, including the grief of losing my son, my father, my grandparents, and dear friends. Each of those losses shaped me in ways I still carry. It was after losing my grandfather that I felt a quiet, certain knowing: when the time came for my grandmother, I wanted to help with her farewell. That moment became the beginning of everything.
Over the past 18 years I have had the honour of supporting countless families through life's most significant moments, creating ceremonies that are deeply personal and meaningful. Every farewell has only deepened my belief that how we mark the end of a life truly matters.
That belief is what inspired me to write this planner. Because everyone deserves clarity, and a calm, structured path through what can otherwise feel like an impossible process.
My hope is simply this: that you feel less alone, more prepared, and quietly confident that the things that matter most are taken care of.
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